In former times, wedding festivities were drawn-out
affairs lasting several days. They began on a Monday with the dispatch
of the bridal trousseau to the bridegroom's house. The procession
carrying the trousseau was proceeded by large wooden or iron "trees"
decorated with cloths, fruits, and flowers. The bridal bath was held
the following day (Tuesday) while Wednesday evening was when a
henna~party was held in the harem section of the house in which the
bride-to-be lived. At the same time, the menfolk would be enjoying
themselves in the men's quarters (selamlık) of same house or in that of
the groom's.
A henna party was an occasion on which the bride,
young girls, and the womenfolk of her future husband dressed up in the
sumptuous, heavilyembroidered dresses called bindalli. The bride's face
would be concealed by a sequined red veil. The henna for the party
would be brought to the bride's house on a silver tray with two burning
candles by a few of the groom's relatives. After all the guests were
assembled, the bride's future mother-in-law would roll out like a
carpet before her a bolt of silk cloth that she had brought with her as
a gift. The bride and her friends, carrying lit candles, would approach
the guests while coins would be scattered over the bride's head as
symbols of fertility. The bride would walk along the unrolled bolt of
silk cloth towards her future mother-in-law (this often was the first
occasion on which they met), take the woman's hand, and kiss it
respectfully. Trays of fruits and nuts, pastries, and marzipan would
now appear. Songs and ditties reserved only for henna-parties would now
be sung in an attempt to make the prospective bride cry. (Her crying
was believed to bring good luck.) Next the bride would be made to sit
on a cushion and her mother-in-law would place a gold coin in the palm
of her hand. This gold coin was believed to be a symbol of good luck
and abundance. Now a woman who was known to have a happy marriage had
the job of tinging the palms, fingertips, and big toes of the bride
with henna. The bride's unmarried friends would also tinge their hands
with henna in the belief that this would enable them to get married
soon.
